5 Reasons Your Goals Fail By the End of January

Planning is key to success.

It’s hard to believe that we are at the end of January. Personally, I am not used to this month flying this fast. I always felt that January would drag because not much is going on as far as birthdays and holiday events.

January is known as THE month for everyone to establish their New Year’s Resolutions, or goals. Everyone is wanting to make a change for the better for the new year. I am one of them. I’ve personally never created New Year’s Resolutions for myself. Let’s be honest, I am not the girl who can stick with a planned outfit for the next day. I’m constantly changing my mind as the year goes on. Hey, that’s okay. This year though, I did establish goals for myself. If you haven’t read the article about goals, you can find it here.

I know some of you may have already felt or already have given up on your goals. My question is, why? Is it because you can’t simply do it? Is it because your goals aren’t working out for you? Did you lack motivation? I’m not here to shame you if you have. We have all been there.

What I am here for is to give you my five reasons why your goals fail by the end of January. These reasons may give you some insight and possibly identify the root of your problem. Without further ado, let’s get into them.

  1. Your goals were far-fetched.
    Some of you may have made huge goals for you and your family. I mean HUGE! Maybe you want to wipe out your 150K debt by the end of 2022. Maybe you want to run a marathon by April. Maybe you want to buy your first home by your 30th birthday. I’m going  to be honest with you, I have been there. I have created such far-fetched goals for myself in the past. Sure, it looks good on paper, but let me ask you this: Do you have the capability to do it in that given amount of time?

    Things to consider: Look at your foundation. If you have a financial goal, look at your current finances and budget (if you have one). If you have a health goal, look at your current health whether it is your weight, bloodwork, fitness level, etc. If you are a beginner blogger, like me, look at your views and engagements from previous months from different social media platforms.  When you look at your foundation, you can get an idea of how realistic you need for your goal to be.
  2. You didn’t break down your goals into mini-goals.
    You made your goals and hopefully wrote them down. That is a start. However, if you didn’t do anything else with your goal. You probably feel overwhelmed and don’t know where to begin. You may have researched how people met similar goals and later became frustrated. Trust me when I say, “I’ve been there. I’ve done that.” What is causing your frustration is you don’t know where to begin. We read all the success stories, but we don’t always hear how they got started.

    Things to consider: Break your goal down into fourths, if you can. Each fourth would represent what you want to achieve for each season. Let’s say your goal is to pay off your $24K student loan by the end of the year. You can break it down by paying off $6K by March. Another $6K by June. Another $6K by August. Then your last $6K by December. When you break it down into mini-goals, you stay motivated and you can see your progress along the way.
  3. You aren’t making a weekly/daily plan for your goals.
    The explanation behind reason 3 is similar to reason 2. You broke your goal down into mini goals, but you stopped right there. Maybe you have the idea that you can accomplish your mini-goals within a season, but you don’t take action right away. You put it off until you realize you’re running out of time. Therefore, you think that it’s all over and quit right on the spot.  You feel there is no use to keep going because you lost some time along the way.

    Things to consider: Depending on your goal, you need to break it down even further into smaller goals. I like to call these smaller goals, “weekly/daily actions.” This is where a planner or a notebook would come in handy because writing things down drives you to take action on your goal. On Sunday evenings, I take some time to sit down and think about what I want to accomplish within the upcoming week. I make a goal for that week and then break it down into what I am going to do throughout that week.

    For an example: I currently have a goal to wash my hair once a week. I started back in July when I noticed how damaged my hair looked. So I broke my goal down to five phases, each phase pertaining to how often I wash my hair. Phase 1 is to wash my hair every other day. I wrote the goal down and then I went into my planner and scheduled the days I would be washing my hair. I would also take note of how my hair was looking on the non-washed days. Over time, my scalp was becoming less oily and less hair was falling out. I worked on Phase 1 until last December. I am currently in Phase 2. I schedule my hair wash days and take note of how my hair is looking by day 3. When you reflect on how things are going, you are able to recognize your strengths and find strategies to help you improve on your weaknesses.

My hair journey back in September. I scheduled my wash days and took note on my scalp and hair on non-wash days.

4. You feel like you should see significant progress.
Okay, this reason is totally relatable because I, too, have been there. This part is the most frustrating thing we all experience when meeting our goals. In this world today, technology and fast paced societies have completely changed our mindset where we think we should see big results in a little amount of time. I hate to break it to you, but unless you win the lottery or have a genie, you’re not going to see a big change overnight. If you’re trying to lose 20 pounds, you’re not going to lose it overnight through diet and exercise. It’s physically not possible. If you’re new at starting a blog, chances are, you aren’t going to hit over 10 million views overnight. Things take time and effort. It took me a long time to figure this out.

Things to consider: Do a recap at the end of each month. This is where you get a clearer picture of the progress you have made so far. Your recap will also motivate you to make a plan for the following month and keep going.  If you consider taking on the tips I gave you in Reasons 1-3, then you will see some progress. Is it going to be a lot of progress? Probably not. However, slow progress is better than no progress.

5. You’re not holding yourself accountable.
This reason tends to get under a lot of people’s skin. Why? Because they are being called out for what they have or haven’t done. I hate to say this, but nobody is going to accomplish your goals for you. It’s just not going to happen. You are responsible for your actions. You are the only one who makes the final decision on whether you want to keep going or quit.

Things to consider: Journal. I’m not saying you should write a page a day on your day. Simply write down your highs and lows from that day. Then come up with a plan on how you are going to improve. Writing it down will give you motivation. It will also make you realize what you are doing to sabotage your goals. When you write down your sabotaging habits more than once, you will start feeling a little embarrassed by it. Trust me. I’ve felt that before.

I hope these reasons give you some insights on what’s going on and how you can improve yourself along the way. Making goals is easy. Putting in the time and doing the work is the hard part. Have you felt this way before or struggled with working on goals? If so, let me know in the comments, I would love to hear what you did to overcome the struggle.

Stay adventurous,

Natalie

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